anti-prose. random matter.
Published on August 13, 2005 By crimson In Blogging
My sister told me a story about a woman she met in the park. My sister remarked on her daughter's straight brown hair that was waist-length, the same as my neice. While their daughters played in the wading pool, the woman told her about her used-to-be friend and neighbour.

Turns out that the neighbour had offered to babysit sit for the woman one day while she did some shopping. When the woman got back to pick up her daughter, she found out that while she was gone, the used-to-be friend and neighbour had went and purchased a home perm kit and attempted to give the woman's child a perm as a surprise. The perm didn't turn out, however, and because of the weight of the hair only the ends of it appeared to be curly.

Now, after my sister had told me this, I was in shock. What kind of person would dare to give somebody else's kid a perm? I mean, it's not called a 'permanent' for nothing.

Obviously, the woman felt the same way. She expressed her anger politely, but heatedly to the used-to-be friend and neighbor. And what she do in return? She didn't apologize, she took revenge for her hurt feelings.

Well, turns out that the woman who told the story to my sister, also fostered children in her home. So the used-to-be friend and neighbour called the CAS (children's aid society) on her, stating that the kids were going unfed, and were not being properly cared for.

Is that sick or what?

So, CAS calls the woman, warns her that they will be over for a home visit in 48 hours. The woman demands that they arrive immediately to assess her home. Of course, it all turns out well; she wasn't negligent, and all the children were well-fed and cared for. CAS assures her that her used-to-be friend and neighbour will be dealt with properly; they take these things seriously, all accusations must be investigated, fake accusations will be met with inspections, and notification of other authorities.
The woman took her daughter to a hairdresser who managed to make things right, and interaction between the two women are prohibited.

More and more often, however, arguements, disagreements and revenge result in this type of behaviour. And I just can't stop shaking my head.

Comments
on Aug 13, 2005
Yes, this is a case of going way beyond what is acceptable. First of all, the neighbor was out of line giving her friend's child a permanent without permission for sure. However, the reaction was certainly not the one called for in this case. If it ended the friendship, it wasn't much of a friendship to start with. It says a lot about the character of both women, and not favorably either.

Did anyone think about the child? The child is really the one who was most traumatized. Somehow that was forgotten in the account given here. Her hair wasn't what was damaged the most; the hairdresser couldn't undo the emotional damage the child endured.

I agree, it is a pathetic story.
on Aug 13, 2005
Sometimes people just sicken you....pitiful.

~Zoo
on Aug 13, 2005
It's just unbelievable how some people can overstep the boundaries of proper behavior, and
then have the gall to be insulted when called on it!

They are in total denial of their own
inappropriate actions and refuse to consider consequences as something they deserve,
and try to turn it around so that their "feelings" are appeased.........
JUST INCREDIBLE!
on Aug 14, 2005
Did anyone think about the child? The child is really the one who was most traumatized. Somehow that was forgotten in the account given here.


I asked the same of my sister who told me the story, and she said no mention of the girl was made. After she said that, it made me question how much was actually left out of the story on the woman's behalf... but what a way to 'solve a problem'.