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red in the face
Published on October 14, 2004 By crimson In Home & Family
It hurts to be a mommy sometimes.
My girl came home from school last week and was acting strangely. She looked sort of down and like she had a secret at the same time. I waited until the right moment and she finally told me that while she was at school, during circle, she had let a loud fart rip. And then she told me she cried.

I was in the middle of starting to laugh, until I remembered how embarassing life can get for a child. I haven't blushed in years, but I remember doing so frequently as a girl, and the tears that would follow when I was alone. I remember days where I wouldn't want to go back to school, where I wanted to change schools for doing or saying something stupid the day before. And I remember how alienating life can seem when everyone laughs at you, not with you.

So my daughter sat on my lap for a long time, crying out her shame and her disappointment. I couldn't believe how hot with guilt she was, and how exhausted she seemed after she had finally stopped shedding tears.

I hugged her for a long time. And later, made her laugh about it, too. Everything is all right now, but I can't help but think about how my daughter's pain can cause me tears, even if no blood has been shed.

Comments
on Oct 14, 2004
Oh God... I've so been there! Of course, the consolation is that it took you a second to remember that sort of childhood embarassment yourself, which means that in due time, she will probably get past that moment too.
on Oct 14, 2004
I remember getting embarrassed, but not too terribly often. So it has been something for me to learn when dealing with my oldest daughter. She gets embarrassed very easily, and times when I want to laugh I have to remember that that will hurt her even more. I am learning to tread lightly.
on Oct 14, 2004
Well, if you want to make her feel better, tell her that once, in kidergarten, I crapped my pants, cause I was too scared to use the "public" toilet. It took them a while to figure out who it was too. Strangely enough, no one ever found out about it, except for the teachers that is. Truth be told, I never felt guilty about it tho. I think I repressed that memory until now, lol.
on Oct 14, 2004
Hehe...I'm still giggling from Macks comment....

I still embarrass myself on a regular basis, I'm just so clumsy. I have learnt to deal with it now though, and just laugh at myself, When you are young it's a different story though. You try so hard to fit in, then you do something and feel so silly. These are all character building experiences though!
on Oct 14, 2004
I was embarrassed by a fart in high school and it wasn't even me - and I'm serious. I was in study hall. About twice as many students there as in a regular class. I got up to sharpen my pencil and right at that moment Eric Creamer let rip the biggest fart. Well I was just so surprised and somehow embarrassed even though it wasn't me that I blushed and sat back down. So it looked even worse like that fart blew me out of my seat - oh the humiliation. I survived but I haven't forgotten.
on Oct 14, 2004
Bwahaha! sorry Locamama! But that laugh was for you. I just played the scene in my mind and its just too hilarious:) But no offend, i know what embarrassment is about. I used to be super shy and even going to buy bread was too much for me. I'd just feel embarrassed to talk to someone i didnt know. Like they maybe judge me while i'm standing there in front of them. I somehow overcame that feeling. And maybe the fact that people have laughed at me made me a bit tougher. In hurting you learn.