anti-prose. random matter.
Published on March 17, 2007 By crimson In Blogging
Can you forget how to write?

It's been so long since I last posted an article, or even read one, that I feel like I'm brand-new to this whole thing. This whole blogging thing.

I've been busy just living. Work. My girl. Spending money. Socializing. Staying in and renting movies. And lots of writing, even for fun, but just not online.

I'm writing a story. In fact, it's almost like re-writing a story, decades later. When I was in my early twenties I wrote almost a whole book on an old Mac computer, that slowly started falling apart. The disc drive went. The keyboard was fucked after spilling a beer on it, and the printer blew. I lost several pertinent discs that might have restored it all, if I had had the cash to get everything fixed, but I never did have the coin at the time.

It's probably sitting in the Bensfort Rd landfill, buried under a ton of broken toys, headless dolls, and computer screens with their windows to inner worlds blown out. A treasure chest inside a non-decomposing frame of metal and off-white plastic holding early writings, now long gone, irretrievable.

Would I want it back? All those random stories that spoke of unfullfilled love, bitter regret, and anger aimed at parental figures who abandoned all?

Fuck no. Who needs that kind of reminder of a life shown so distorted? My adult eye now sees things as not being all that bad. In fact, it was a fairly idyllic existence in retrospect. Forgetting the stain of being adopted out, I had two loving and supportive parents, a twin, and an older brother I both idolized and admired. I never got hit, I never saw night after night of arguments and binge drinking. There was so much badness in life that was not present while growing up, that I find it hard to believe I thought all was dark and dismal.

But that younger, more self-centred writer saw it differently.

Maybe it would be a good chuckle, if, just for kicks, I was able to read some of the stories I poured my young heart into. Maybe my naive perspective would show me how much I've grown now, and how much I've changed since then. Maybe, maybe, maybe. And then again, I'm still that same girl. With those same regrets, although muted. Those same issues regarding intimacy, desire, and disdain are still lurking, though I have tried hard to outgrow it all.

One story still stays with me. And as I rewrite it from memory, almost twelve years later, I find myself discarding a lot of things. Some of the plot is changed, and the relationships aren't nearly as corny, or already done. The ideas that I used to have about life aren't the same, and my writing reflects that now.

It's not the same story anymore. I find that interesting, though. I also find it somewhat bittersweet.

Comments
on Mar 17, 2007
Hey Nicky,

Glad to hear you're doing well and that you're writing, even if it is only for yourself.

I've got notepads and bits of paper with song and story ideas on them I've had around for over 20 years. It is fun and often funny to go back and look at these. The difference between the me then and the me now is incredible but, in some ways, these provide a linear view of my artistic development.

All good stories evolve, I guess.
on Mar 17, 2007
Glad to hear you're doing well and that you're writing, even if it is only for yourself.


I agree with Maso (to a point -heh, I've been drinking - I don't agree with the "only to yourself" part)

Been missing you, Girl. You've been on my mind.
on Mar 17, 2007
Isn't it funny how your perspective changes with time and experience? I know I have definitely reevaluated a lot of choices I made and ideas I had even less than 10 years ago.

I felt so smart and capable when I was young and I've spent the past several years eating humble pie. LOL.

Good to see you around, Nicky.

on Mar 17, 2007
I felt so smart and capable when I was young and I've spent the past several years eating humble pie.


I hear that. I used to know all the answers, but now at 46 I feel I don't know shit. Weird.
on Mar 17, 2007
Yeah, the older I get the more I know I don't know.
on Mar 18, 2007
Great article Nicky. It is fascinating for me to go back and read things I wrote 10+ years ago. My point of view is so different.

Best of luck with the story.
on Mar 18, 2007

Nicky - re: will it come back?

YES.  Very well.

on Mar 18, 2007
Going back and reading new work, you always gain new perspective based on the new person you've become. You might not end up finishing the same story you started, but often you take inspiration from it and create a new one that goes in a different and more fulfilling direction.

To answer your opening question, you can forget how to write, but once you start doing it again it is easy to remember. Back when I was taking all my education courses, I found (to my horror) that I was spending so much time on them that I became absolutely worthless as a writer. As soon as those went away and I was able to start writing regularly again, it all came back to me.

For me, it's always been bittersweet rewriting something after a break and finding how many changes I employ to make it better. Then again, the hardest and most affecting thing to write about is life itself, and this is often bittersweet.
on Mar 18, 2007
Nice to see you writing again, Nicky.

I can relate to the "forgetting" how to write. I used to write so much all the way up to graduating from college--little stories, lyrics, random thoughts, etc. Now, it seems as if I've lost some of that will to write--haven't lost it totally, but it's not entirely there like it used to be.

Maybe it'lll fully come back someday.
on Mar 19, 2007
Good to see you and glad you're ok! Hey, living life offline is always good! Don't be a stranger!