anti-prose. random matter.
Published on February 9, 2007 By crimson In Blogging
It's true, I know. After thousands of barstool discussions with single girls in their late twenties, new mothers or wives in their mid thirties, wisened ladies in their golden years, and even those that are still brand new to it all, I've never met a sister who wouldn't admit to falling for a bad guy.

Like that everlasting question though, 'what defines bad?' And faster than a bunny, it's a straight up debate between the pros and the cons, black and white, thin vs. fat, any old positive to negative that you could consider. I don't have time for that crap, though.

I don't have time to bring it up with the committee.

No, these days it's all about me, and on Planet Nicky, my version of a bad boy, lately, is just one who walks a little left of average. I don't need anyone hardcore, yo. I'm all about pursuing normal. Gimme a guy who's just ordinary, and I'm impressed these days. Sure, make me laugh, but I'm not after gold and glitter. I just want to find someone nice, though that makes most people cringe to really consider it.

I feel like that about life in general, though. I don't want waves, and I don't want screams of excitement or dispair. No, these days I just want to glide by, to acknowledge 'just a day' and be happy with that.

I don't know. Maybe it's the weather, or something.

Comments
on Feb 09, 2007
It's true. They all like the bad boys.

And that's why I'M STILL SINGLE. Oh well. It hasn't been that long, and I don't assume it'll be too much longer.

But single is boring.
on Feb 09, 2007
I think it is entirely possible to meet a nice guy who likes to be naughty.

Stay true to what you want and it will come. Trust me on that.
on Feb 09, 2007
But single is boring.


That's the whole grass is greener issue. When you're in a relationship being single seems like so much fun. When you're single, you think it would be great to be in a relationship.

I have to admit that nice guys always seemed boring to me but I don't think a truly nice, kind, good-hearted man wouldn't have made me cry as much as I've cried lately. I'm with Kelly a nice not boring guy who likes to be naughty, that would be the ideal. As they say, the one's worth crying over won't make you cry.

on Feb 10, 2007
Lemme tell you about bad boys...

Na...you've already heard it before! And what's that old saying? A woman takes a man hoping he'll change and a man takes a woman hoping she WON'T. I tell ya we're hopeless, Nicky....

on Feb 11, 2007
Hey Nic,

In my younger days, I was always told I was too nice, which confused the hell outta. Too nice, WTF? Following is a little thing I wrote some time ago, in response to being called nice.

I'm Not Nice - A Good Guy's Lament

I've never been the type for bar room fights
I've never been the type to stay out all night

I've never cheated on anyone I love
I've never claimed to be beyond or above

I've never insulted, abused or lied
I've never kept her chained, reined or denied

I've never used another as a gratuitous device
But I've never said I was fucking nice

Yes, you can call me many things but one comes with a price
Just try again calling me fucking nice

nice guy who likes to be naughty.


Well said, Kelly. This is probably me in a nutshell except I would say 'I'm a good bloke who enjoys being naughty'.
on Feb 11, 2007
I'm Not Nice - A Good Guy's Lament




That's the story of my life . . .
on Feb 12, 2007
That's the story of my life . . .


Sorry to hear that, mate. You just have to get used to it, stick to your guns and the right woman will come along. Either that or you can give up now and join a monastery.
on Feb 12, 2007
Me give up? Never. No way, José. I'm way too young yet.

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on Feb 14, 2007
Thanks all for writing. I started writing the latest with Sawyer from LOST in mind. I went off on a tangent, but there is something about 'em. Even though they are all wrong.... it's hard to not pay any attention.

But nice guys can be arses, too, don't ya know.