anti-prose. random matter.
homework really does suck...
Published on April 18, 2004 By crimson In Blogging
One of the most challenging aspects of parenthood is empathy. For all the reasons that Kole hates to do homework, I did too. I remember homework time being the most frustrating, tear-inducing, boring and agonizing time of day. I would spend much of it in just sheer negativity... and would beg my mother in a hundred different ways to let me not do it. Of course, it never worked out.
I find myself in her position now, faced with her begging, crying, whining and procrastinating. And I find myself completely understanding her, but having to be the adult, and try to find ways to motivate her in learning. And, I'm not always pleasant or supportive. The thing is, I know she can do it. She's done work like this before, but under the guise of fun. So, she gets lazy. Puts her foot down and refuses to go on. And I get upset with that, so I start to lose it. I find myself having to excuse myself to go to the bathroom, just so that I can keep it in control.

I know homework at an early age is focused upon because it is a time when children are starting to make connections. Some studies have shown that those who do not do homework are at a disadvantage later in life. And maybe it is good for the brain, but I sometimes wonder how much damage is being done to those who find it excruciating. Where every attempt ends in tears. Where, no matter how fun you try to make it, or how painless you strive for it to be, it still is fucking awful for a six year old to do.


Comments
on Apr 18, 2004
Offer your child money when it completes it's homework. It will expand it's brain power and learn that hard work can lead to excessive wealth. If you do this wilth your sons you will produce of whole army of Sir Peter Maxwell's!
on Apr 18, 2004
I feel your pain. I still have the same arguments for homework with my 14 year old and 12 year old. It is good that you leave when you start getting that mad though.
on Apr 19, 2004
I hated doing homework too, so for whatever it's worth, I can sympathise with both you and your daughter. I shudder to think that one day I'll have to try to convince my offspring(s) to do their homework. I think I'll let my future wife deal with that
on Apr 19, 2004
I think I'll let my future wife deal with that

Taking the easy way out, huh?

Kelly, yeah. I know I have one hell of a temper, and the best thing to do when I feel like I'm going to go ballistic is just to step away from the situation. I was kind of exagerating in this case, but there have been times when I find it hard to keep calm. The good thing is though, is that we both realize how frustration works. Hopefully, my methods of calming down by removing myself from the situation, take time to cool down, and then think about a solution to the problem is noticed by my daughter. In fact, I know it has. For that, I am grateful.