Men Must Suffer

screw the rules

Published on July 4, 2006 By crimson In Blogging

I don't know how far back it goes, but I definitely remember the first time that a guy told me he liked me, and I turned around and walked away... deliberately, even though I actually liked him. Of course, I was in grade school back then, but I am 100% positive that someone must have told me that this was the way to handle things.

Go into your closest Chapters, Cole's, or Indigo monster store (or whatever it is you have there in your hometown), and I'm sure there's an isle or two devoted to it: designed rules on how to behave in a relationship. Whenever I come across it though, I hurry by, the same way I do when I see the devout passing out phamplets, or shaking empty tin cans and singing. I'm not a believer. I don't think that I need some book telling me how to be happy being single, how to stop being single, how to understand the man I love, how to love the man I want to understand... and so on.

I don't quite trust the people who write these bulky tomes. In fact, for all those so-called Relationship Experts, I'm pretty suspicious towards them. I picture them as the people for whom the phone never rings, flowers never sent to, and as people who pine away for the one person they crushed on in Kindergarten. Link

And I have definite questions for the people who pick up the book entitled "The Rules" or "Redefining Mr. Right: A Career Woman’s Guide to Choosing a Mate". Why? Why would you need a book to spell out what you should be figuring out for yourself? I'm not saying I have all the answers. I don't know anyone who does. But how the bloody hell can a book help you decide what's right? How can a set of defined steps weed out the undesireable or reel a winner in?

All these phony tactics that encourage lying, disinterest, and a step-by-step blueprint in order to create a loving relationship is pure shite. The only thing that I'm certain of, when it comes to relationship advice books is to run when one is spotted on a bookshelf or coffee table. Not all reading material is good reading material, for sure.

Comments

Sally jacobs

on Jul 04, 2006

I love the title to this......I guess that says alot on my sadistic nature! I completely hate the game playing, and manipulation tactics that it would appear you have to enter in, on the dating scene. I'm just to lazy for all that. These books seem to encourage such behaviour. No thanks! It should be enough to just like someone, and do what your heart tells you. I don't think you can go far wrong then!

InBloom

on Jul 04, 2006

This reminds me of when I would read seventeen, cosmo, or similar magazines with all of that advice on how to "nab" or "impress" or "turn on a guy" (and so on...).

From my teens to my very early twenties, this info had me in awe and wonder. Eventually, though, as I got more experience in life, I kind of figured out how silly and moronic most of this stuff was.

Now, when I pass the magazine stands in the store, the ones with "the perfect devil's food cake" recipes lure me more than the headlines screaming, "Ten ways to keep your man." Hell, even the ones offering up Brad and Angelina gossip hold my interest more than those glossy, glammed up mags.

Shovelheat

on Jul 04, 2006

Excellent writing! If I had the skills I'd write a blog from a man's point of view of what happens when a man is brutaly honest and says "screw the rules!"

To make a long story short, I can tell ya- you'll find yourself sittin' at IHOP at three in the ay-em alone and shitfaced!

KellyW0498

on Jul 04, 2006

Who are these rule makers anyways? I think you raise an excellent point. Who made them an expert? Who is in charge of appointing experts in relationships? More questions.

Do you really want a (wo)man that plays by the rules?

lent writing! If I had the skills I'd write a blog from a man's point of view of what happens when a man is brutaly honest and says "screw the rules!"

To make a long story short, I can tell ya- you'll find yourself sittin' at IHOP at three in the ay-em alone and shitfaced!

You do and you should!

dynamaso

on Jul 04, 2006

Nicky, this made me laugh as it is so true. I've often wondered about the people who write those books myself. Why would anyone who has built a successful career for themselves, which would almost certainly include developing good relationships with all those they work with, need advice on how to find the 'right mate'? It just makes me laugh.

EventHorizon

on Jul 05, 2006

I've often wondered about the people who write those books myself.

'Those who can't, teach.'

dynamaso

on Jul 06, 2006

Learn to suck a bowling ball through a garden hose

Perform this trick at every party/public gathering you can.

I'm having a party this weekend. Would you like to come?

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