though some do feel otherwise...
I've heard from a number of people, both male and female (but let's just use the male perspective as an example to keep things simple) that to be called a 'nice' guy is the kiss of death.
At face value, there is nothing erotic about the image of a 'nice guy'. It's not a sexy label, it's hardly indusive for fantasy-building images. In fact, for those who are considered nice, they often complain of being taken advantage of, of being overlooked, but seem resigned to the classification anyway. Rarely do they try to break free of the label, because where do you go from there? Back a hundred paces to 'asshole'?
My friend and I got together today to do laundry. He gave me the total opportunity to refer to him as a 'nice guy', but I don't think anyone could be bothered by it in this case.
We talked about doing laundry a couple of nights ago. Each having hangovers, our first laundry outing was cancelled, but this morning we met up at my local coffee shop, him with his hockey bag filled with a ton of clothing, me with the keys to the car that was taking us to our destination. He was interesting in doing such a mundane task, because of where I told him I did mine. There's a Chapters in town that conveniently has a coin laundry next door. It's tucked around the corner, so many people don't even realize its there. It's a treat to do laundry here, because all you do is load it, leave, browse, change, leave, and voila... finished. And you've spent a good portion of time browsing for books and all the other incidentals at this store.
While at the coffee shop before we left, he asked me what book I would want to get. I told him I was interested in reading William Gibson's Pattern Recognition. I had been reading it for the last little while there, and if I ever scraped up enough coin to get it, it was mine.
I left our laundry escapade with some interesting conversation, 4 loads of clean towels and kid's clothing, and Pattern Recognition on loan from him. He let me have first dibs on reading it. Nice guy, huh?