There are some people that are very comfortable with their bodies. There are some people that are very secure in their sexuality. And, there are some people who won't hesitate in letting others know about it.
If this is starting to sound like a rant, rest assured, it isn't. If anything, it is an applaud for those people who have the guts to really talk about their needs, wants, and desires instead of pretending that some things are better off unsaid and that anything that involves sexuality must be kept private.
It's interesting how there is little qualm about a man who talks about masturbation. It is, by now, a matter of fact that some guys (okay, most guys) just do. Like washing their hands, or brushing their teeth or paying the rent.
Isn't it interesting how some girls, apparently, just don't?
Just don't talk about it, that is.
Sure, if you are are female and have close friends, the conversation might pop up. But usually, it's in reference to a joke, or worse, a put-down. I'm lucky enough to have girl friends who feel comfortable enough to discuss things like this, but there are so many other women who don't have this attitude.
And why?
My guess is that it has something to do with what one is told during the birds and the bees chat. At that time, most parents are primarily focused on the 'main event'. There's a lot to inform and a lot to discuss. For those with particularly shy parents, this can be an excruciating event. But there is the problem. It shouldn't be an event. A one time deal. Something bad, something to get nervous about.
Yes, there is a very big element of responsibility when talking about sexuality to children. You don't want to give the wrong impression. You don't want to neglect important facts. You want to start early enough so that you haven't missed the boat, but you have to temper the distribution of information to a young child who may only be asking about a simple part about sexuality.
Because, the sad thing is, if you do it wrong, if you neglect certain things, you might be responsible for inhibiting a person's sexuality. You might be responsible for making them question themselves for a good many years. And, you might just be creating a person who makes judgements on other people's sexuality just because they wouldn't consider it themselves.
Just a thought.